There is a time for both. To never ask or receive help from your community is to claim self-sufficiency, which is a lie. And it destroys community. To never ask or receive is denying your community the opportunity to give. It's frustrating when I've finally got outside of my little world and decided to offer help and yet no one seems interested. Apparently no one has any burden they would like to be relieved of today. Everyday there are gobs of people longing to do something kind, let them.

It's all relative of course to whether you are more of a giver or a taker. Whichever one feels most uncomfortable, do more of that.